A really common Formspring question has lately been something along the lines of “Aren’t you always hungry? How do you deal with it?”. If you follow my food blog, you know that I’m trying to eat an average of 1200 calories per day, aiming for a weekly caloric deficit of 7000 calories/week.
In order to maintain that 1200 average, there are going to be some days where I eat more than 1200, and some days where I eat less.
On the 24th of February I estimated my calorie intake to be 955 calories (I’m using MyFitnessPal on my iphone to track what I eat, and I love it, you can add jnicholea as a friend if you’re using it too!), and although I acknowledge that this total isn’t exact because I”m not weighing and measuring, I make an effort to over-exaggerate my amounts when I’m logging to be on the safe side.
This was a bowl of vegetarian chili, glass of whole milk, balsamic cauliflower, and an orange.



After Christmas, I felt gross and bloated. I was around a lot of high-fat, processed food, and I wasn’t very good at keeping myself away from it. I came back from time in Utah with family and decided to rededicate myself to my food blog. I also worked hard to completely eliminate any mindlessly munching that would contribute to me feeling bloated/sluggish. At first, it was a little strange. My body was trying to figure out where all of the fat, sugar, and salt had gone. I focused on fruits, vegetables, and whole grains and made a resolution to only eat dairy toppings (like sour cream on my chili) on T/Th/Sa/Su (a resolution which I haven’t kept, sadly).
Two months have passed, and I have a pretty good routine. I have a very strict rule for myself that I never eat unless I’m hungry. This usually means that I don’t eat for the first time until well after noon, often a percentage that takes up a large percentage of my calorie allotment for the day, because by that time I’m really, really hungry! I then eat dinner (or sometimes I don’t!) depending on whether I’m hungry or not. I’ve thrown out all the gobbledy-gook regarding revving my metabolism and the dangers of fasting in honor of the overriding principle that my input/output is absolutely the most important piece of the puzzle. To read more about Martin Berkan’s view of “starvation mode” and other theories regarding intermittent fasting, see the FAQs on my food blog.
I’ve written about previously about two books that helped change my approach to diets, Intuitive Eating and When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies, and this is my way of taking those principles and trying to what my body is telling me regarding how much fuel it needs each day. This is not a popular way to do things, as the idea that you should never, ever eat below a certain amount is very strongly ingrained in our culture, but I refuse to believe that my body is broken in regards to the ability to tell me what it needs. When I eat too little, I get shaky and I get a headache. I don’t need any scientific articles to tell me that is a bad thing, and so I work to eat more the next day to make sure the headache doesn’t happen again.
I haven’t really known how to answer the hungry question though, because I didn’t know how to explain why I’m able to get by on so little each day. That struggle ended when I hit page 78 of Food Matters (I plan on writing a nice big post about after I’m finished reading it) and Mark Bittman so clearly explained the American view of hunger, what it means to be hungry and how important it is that we prevent it. Those of the developing world will likely never experience true starvation. And in our society, we eat when we think we usually eat before we get hungry, not when we are already there. Maybe that way of doing things isn’t the best, and maybe it’s in part to blame for our obesity problems in the US. Stop worrying about being a king in the morning, prince in the afternoon, and pauper in the evening. Stop eating snacks throughout the day because you feel like you should. Learn to recognize what it means to feel hungry (and accept that feeling hungry is okay!), choose to fuel your body with good foods when you experience that hunger, and stop eating before you are uncomfortably full.
I spend a fair amount of time airing my grievances regarding my rate of weight loss (because if I want to win the Healthy Train I have to lose a certain percentage to even have a chance), but overall I’m losing weight at a really great rate, between 1.5/2.0 lbs/week. I’m eating more plants, the majority of my grains are whole, and I’m exercising 3-4 times per week. The pants I bought last month at the thrift store? They’re already too big and I’m going to have to go back and buy several new paris! I’m currently on track to reach my goals, and I’m okay with being a little bit hungry sometimes if that what it takes to get there. I keep myself busy, and other than an overwhelming urge to devour an entire chocolate cake every once in awhile, there isn’t anything about this lifestyle that has me thinking I couldn’t do this for the rest of my life, and that’s exactly the way I’d like to lose weight from now on.















March 2nd, 2011 on 8:17 am
I think eating when you’re hungry is essential.
I’m currently 5 months pregnant and there are so many people, blogs, and books out there obsessing over weight and how much you should or shouldn’t gain during pregnancy. Though I think it’s important to keep weight gain under control during pregnancy, I do not obsess about it.
My rule about eating during pregnancy is: I eat when I’m hungry, I stop when I’m satisfied.
So when people see me eating often or in quantities they think is “too much”, I explain to them that: A. Before I was carrying a baby you didn’t care what I ate, so why now do you feel responsible to tell me your opinion about my body? and B. I eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m not.
This country is so obsessed with weight and weight gain and loss that it can be annoying. So many people have “tips and tricks” on how to lose weight and that’s because I believe Americans are overly obsessed with the quick and the easy and we have lost sight of anything worth having (like someone’s ideal body) takes time, effort, and hard work.
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Felicity Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 10:22 am
I just had this conversation with a pregnant girlfriend yesterday who was telling me about choking down dinner. Clearly her body didn’t want to use the energy to digest food at that time. My theory is that when you’re not hungry the blood and energy that would otherwise be used for digestion are off doing important functions elsewhere in your body. Who knows, her body could have been busy replenishing calcium stores in her bones and didn’t have the extra energy to “tell” her to eat!
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Elizabeth Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 6:56 pm
I think pregnancy is a different story…I am pregnant too and have horrible food aversion. But, if I don’t eat fairly consistently I get sick. Talk about mixed signals! I think the rules are off when you are pregnant, although I completely agree that under normal circumstances it’s best to listen to your body.
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Korey Reply:
March 3rd, 2011 at 1:20 pm
I have a friend who, when pregnant, told me that her husband was force feeding her broccoli and she was gagging and choking on it. I am a big believer in “my body knows what it wants” (although sometimes my brain overrides my body and tells me to eat a cupcake) so the force feeding made me mad! She would throw up of course…and you know broccoli of all things is not easy to handle!
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March 2nd, 2011 on 8:23 am
I love how logically and thoroughly you approach everything. So many people (myself included, in the past) just jump on whatever fad diet they think will cut weight fastest. But it sounds like you have found a healthy approach that not only works, but does so without putting your body in danger and without giving your son a negative model of what one’s relationship with food should be.
Congrats on what you’ve accomplished so far! I’m rooting for you!
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March 2nd, 2011 on 8:32 am
I would take this more seriously if it seemed like you grasped that starvation mode due to overall calories and lowered metabolism due to skipped meals are two different concepts. Your “gobbledy-gook” comment makes me think that you found what you wanted to hear and cite that without fully understanding what the disagreements are. (And I don’t even have a position in the disagreement, for the record.)
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Jenna Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 9:47 am
I’m not sure I understand how they are not related? Wouldn’t lowered metabolism be the stepping stone to starvation mode?
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March 2nd, 2011 on 8:40 am
I think you’re doing great, Jenna!
Just a thought… it’s probably harder for people like myself to understand how you do it. I have low blood pressure and I’m prone to feeling really faint if my blood sugar drops (probably something to do with genetics, Type 1 diabetes runs in my family) but to the point – I could not imagine getting by on anything less than 1300 calories in a day at my activity level, but we’re different people.
All too often other people forget that their bodies are not your body. I have a much bigger problem with no/extremely low carb diets than I do with intuitive eating (which actually teaches moderation and discourages eating for the sake of eating), but for some reason people feel the need to praise people for perpetuating carbs as evil when in reality those diets are often horribly unhealthy if you follow them to a t.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 8:44 am
Cheers to you, Jenna! I love that you’re eating the RIGHT things to keep the weight off instead of just, like, buying a whole bunch of 200 calorie SmartOnes meals in the frozen aisle. Because that would be so easy, but it does nothing for your health. You’re definitely an inspiration – keep fighting the good (er, food?) fight!
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March 2nd, 2011 on 9:33 am
To be honest, I disagree about the metabolism and “starvation mode” theory. I’m sure there are some studies that disagree with it, but I think the majority of evidence supports it. Sure, it can be twisted as an excuse to eat more, and eating fewer calories is how we lose weight, but I haven’t seen anything that’s convincing enough to change my mind.
I do agree with you about the “hungry” thing. I’m fairly thin, and I always get the “why are you thin its just not fair” from my friends. I will admit, I do have a high metabolism. But I also let myself get hungry between meals. And I don’t starve myself, I just mean that if its an hour or two before dinner and I’m hungry, I won’t eat crackers until I’m full. I’ll just eat a few carrots or something.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 9:53 am
Great post. This week I really stepped up my diet part of my routine and I’m doing a lot of the same things you are. I am watching what I eat and logging it (I use Lose It, love it).
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:02 am
*I’m sorry to be leaving this as a comment it would be more appropriate as an email. but I didn’t see your email address anywhere on your blog or formspring page. And I’m new to formspring and don’t know how to post such a long quesiton/comment (if that’s even possible). Please feel free to delete this after you’ve read it.)
Jenna, I’ve been reading your blog for almost a year now, and have just recently started following you on formspring. I like much of what you have to say. I think you are intelligent and well spoken. Inspired recently by your post regarding the Salon.com article, I unsubscribed to all the blogs I was following of people that I don’t know personally. Yours is the only one I continue to subscribe to despite the fact that we’ve never personally met. I’m telling you this in hopes that knowing what a fan I am you’ll be more likely to accept this next criticism with the respect and sincerity that it was intended.
Regarding the answer you gave recently on formspring to the woman’s who LDS fiance drinks alcohol on occasion. You said,
“This sometimes-alochol-drinker either needs to fully commit or leave the church for good. Doing it halfway is just a waste of time.”
“he needs to either choose the Church all the way, or leave it behind and live life freely. Mormonism is not cafeteria-style, you’re either all in or you’re all out. You want to be married to someone who has the same standards and ideals that you do!”
My questions are, who are you to tell people whether or not they are welcome in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints? And since when is Christ’s church a place where only perfect people are welcome? This is just so sad to me, Jenna. But unfortunately is so reflective of the attitude of so many in the LDS church and the reason that hundreds of members are leaving the church. My husband and I were born and raised in the LDS church. We both served honorable missions and were married in the temple. However, recently my husband has gone through a crisis of faith and I would be lying if I say his crisis hasn’t affected my own faith. We are no longer able to consider ourselves true believing Mormons. We LOVE the church. We think that it is a great way to raise a family. We would like it to all be true, but we just don’t believe it anymore. You could define us as cafeteria mormons. We accept the doctrine that feels right to us and reject the teachings that feel wrong. We are remaining active in the church but on our own terms. Would it be better for us to stop attending? Should we stop taking our three sons to church? Stop doing family home evening? Stop paying tithing? Turn down every calling to serve in our church community? According to you we should. Because according to you it’s all or nothing.
I would like you to please consider for a moment that you misspoke, that maybe there is a place in Christ’s church for EVERYONE, that a persons salvation and relationship with the Lord is personal and individual, and that everyone is at a different point in their journey to come unto Christ.
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balebusta Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 12:22 pm
You’re right. This is not the place to leave a comment like this. I read your blog so I understand you are going through some things with your faith and clearly had a strong reaction to Jenna’s Formspring response — but — just as you are entitled to have your own feelings and ideas about Mormonism, so is Jenna. She is a private citizen who happens to have a public life through her blogs, formspring, twitter, etc.
I personally think it’s a good thing to question faith and explore it (Jews tend to encourage this more than other faiths I think), but Jenna is not The LDS church. I think perhaps, your questions are being misdirected here.
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Meg Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 12:37 pm
I think when Jenna writes about the LDS faith it is in accordance to her and what she personally believes. I don’t think Jenna has ever been appointed one of the official representatives of her church and when I keep that in mind it is much easier to think and feel comfortable with “Well, that’s her opinion and I appreciate it.”
I think people are even taking this post, which is about her personal philosophy backed by readings she has found helpful, to heart as if she is speaking for medical associations about healthy eating. These are the (well written) writings of a woman who isn’t afraid to put herself out there, whether we like it or not. So when you say “who are you to..” she is simply a woman who has a blog and writes about things she questions, feels to be true, enjoys, and worries about.
I think when people keep that in mind the things she says (if someone is offended) can be put into perspective.
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balebusta Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 12:53 pm
Hmm maybe you meant to respond to Shannon’s comment and not mine? Because what you wrote is basically my point….that Jenna is not the entire LDS church and these are her opinions and beliefs and so not only is this particular comment not relevant to this blog post, they are questions that are better raised to the church, not specific members!
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Meg Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 2:12 pm
I did mean to respond to Shannon, it didn’t click on the correct link/didn’t think it mattered.
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Jenna Reply:
February 26th, 2012 at 5:15 pm
I don’t know if you will get this comment. But I’ve since reversed my stance entirely.
I have joined you int he way you say you think about the Church, and I am very happy. I’m sorry I said those hurtful things before.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:17 am
950 calories seems so little. I would be having massive migraines if I ate that little. I really hope that is the lowest you ever go. It’s not safe to get much lower than that on a regular basis. Anorexics usually only consume 400-600 calories/day and their diets are mostly fruits and veggies. I’d hate to see you get really wrapped up in all of this and end up being anorexic.
I was told by my dietician that it would be safe to stay around 1400-1500 calories a day. I’m going to try to aim for that, but it’s hard if you go out to eat a lot and don’t know what is in the entrees you are ordering!
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Sarah for Real Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 10:38 am
I think you’ll find that Jenna eats plenty of food if you follow her food blog. I don’t ever see her going as low as 600 calories and I certainly don’t think she has anorexic issues. I agree with her that there’s no magic to the number 1200.
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balebusta Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 12:25 pm
It takes more than dieting to turn into Anorexia. I hear your concern for Jenna, but I think she is doing this in a mostly healthy way and on “average” (remember, it’s not what you do on one day that counts, it’s what you do over time) is consuming enough calories to meet basic needs.
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 2:51 pm
It could be an issue if it was the case everyday. A one time occurance is not a sign of an issue.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:20 am
Hi Jenna – I’m a big believer in eating when hungry and just listening to your body too. Unfortunately if I get too hungry my body asks for cookies. Ha! Anyway, I used to go for really long stretches of days without being hungry at all and it turns out that is a symptom of having an under-active thyroid (along with a whole bunch of other sucky symptoms, but I was undiagnosed for so long because I didn’t “look” like I had a problem. Sheesh!) I’ve since started taking replacement medication and feel 100x’s better. I’m not a medication-pusher, but I just thought I’d mention it since being tested is super easy and inexpensive and the results for me have literally been life-changing.
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Jenna Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 10:32 am
I was tested last week! My mom, dad, and sister all have Hashimotos (hypothyroidism). I need to call and find out my results.
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Maggie Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 10:43 am
Yes, I agree-my mother and sister both have hypothyrodism and since taking the medication they have become new people! Hypothyroidism can really impact metabolism.
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Stephanie C Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 3:34 pm
I’ve had the same experience! Good advice. I’m on meds for hypothryoidism, but I still don’t get hungry until after noon.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:24 am
Interesting post! I agree that everyone’s body is a bit different and the “rules” we’ve decided to follow come from the same place that says “fat is bad” one day and “fat is good” the next.
I love that you’re getting back to intuitive eating. Hopefully one day soon the intuitiveness will carry over and you won’t have so much trouble locking up the processed/snacky foods. I believe you’ll get there because I did it myself!
As for the hungry part, I also had that question about your eating habits. Personally, I have bad acid reflux problems so I very much prefer going to bed hungry at night. In fact, I really HAVE to go to bed hungry unless I want to wake up with heartburn.
I actually like the feeling of truly getting hungry before I eat a meal. It makes me feel… efficient. Yes that’s the right word.
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Sarah for Real Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 10:50 am
I think it’s also valuable to the discussion to point out that Jenna isn’t 6 feet tall.
I don’t post my food/calories because I’m 5′-8″ tall, which in the world of women bloggers is taller than average, so I eat quite a bit more. I know another blogger/friend who is closer to 5′-0″ tall and she doesn’t post food/calories for this very reason. People would call her anorexic for eating less than 1200 calories per day. Heaven forbid.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:25 am
I like the whole concept of only eating when you are hungry, but I’m usually really hungry when I wake up.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:35 am
I am usually pretty hungry when I wake up in the morning. But even if I’m not, I feel like eating a banana or some other fruit helps stave off the headache/shakes that you talk about, which can ruin me for the entire day!
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Jackie Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 5:34 pm
I am always starving in the morning. I do notice that if I skip breakfast, I eat more later. It’s like my body still wants three meals, and so I get more snacky at night.
I used to get migraines a lot, and eating a bigger breakfast was one of the things that really helped with that.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 10:57 am
I disagree with you. I think that this way of DIETING is just fine, and whatever tactics it takes for you to eat those 1200 calories a day is fine. I remember how hard it was to eat so little, and for me eating like 6 times a day helped. If eating once a day works for you that is great.
However, when not dieting (and for me WHEN dieting), I think it is important to eat before you feel RAVENOUS. When I’m ravenous I eat way too much, but when I’m only slightly hungry I eat a normal amount. In Italy they would NEVER skip dinner, and their rate of obesity is quite low. Most people eat about 4 times a day, but that is it. No extra snacks etc. Anyway, just my thoughts on the subject.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 11:00 am
I read Food Matters last month (as a complement to The End of Overeating) and I really liked it. I especially liked the portion where he talked about protein, and our over emphasis on it.
I am one who does think that it is important to eat something first thing in the morning- even a little something, like an orange- simply because I and many people around me have had excellent results when we started eating breakfast even if we weren’t hungry. Within no time I started waking up hungry, even with my stomach growling, and instead of feeling a bit bloated in the mornings I felt empty, like my stomach was saying “ok, let’s go lady, we need something in here to start burning through!” I also lost weight after a plateau by eating breakfast. One would think that by eating when I wasn’t hungry I would be *more full*, but I had the opposite experience with the waking up hungry thing. Also, I found myself truly hungry for lunch once I started eating breakfast. In fact, I’ve heard a lot of people say that’s exactly why they skip breakfast- if they eat it, they are hungry by lunchtime, so they skip it so they don’t feel hunger.
I agree it’s not magic, but I do think there is something to be said for the theory that not skipping meals helps- especially when I’m working out, there is no way I could make it through an hour and a half of power yoga without breakfast! But if you’re losing at a rate that you’re happy with then clearly it’s working and every body is certainly different.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 11:01 am
One reason I don’t count calories is because I don’t want to stress over a number. I eat when I’m hungry, and I like it that way. I’m not trying to lose weight though, so if I was my attitude might change. I definitely believe that my body knows what it needs. I do make to sure to eat healthy though – whole grains, lots of fruit and veggies, and lean protein – so I can get the most out of what I eat.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 11:16 am
I like the concept of intuitive eating — just eating when you are hungry. But I am always hungry! I could just eat and eat and eat. I love food… and I know it is an emotional connection too — it makes me feel happier.
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 2:40 pm
I think you’re talking about the difference between mouth hunger and stomach hunger.
Most people eat because of mouth hunger, they are salivating at the though of a food or they think they are hungry, but truly the stomach is still satisfied by the previous meal.
It’s a learning process to find out what’s a little hunger, a normal hunger and a ravenous one, and find the clues from the body to eat at the right time.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 11:27 am
This post reminded me of something my husband read recently; some study found that Americans have a really hard time distinguishing between thirst and hunger. As in, the average American thinks that when they’re thirsty they’re actually hungry so eat instead of drink. I’ve definitely upped my fluid intake since he told me that.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 11:53 am
I liked this post. Something interesting our doctor told my husband (who’s 5’3″, I’m 5’1″) is that restaurants give out portions for the average sized person and then add way more on top of that! So if I want to eat the amount of food healthy for my short body, I have to eat about half of what is normally served (depending on restaurant of course). Otherwise, I will be a 5’1″ girl weighing as much as something who’s 5’8″ and that’s not healthy.
You do what you feel is right for YOUR body and I like that. I think everyone is a little different. I love reading your food blog.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 12:07 pm
I wish there were a “Like” button because I would totally click it. Intuitive eating is important. I work with a lot of eating disorder patients and one thing we start off with is making sure they stick to a “three meals and two snacks” a day plan in the beginning as they work to relearn their own bodies needs and hunger signals. When they are healthier (emotionally and physically) then we work on the concept of eating mindfully and intuitively.
I’m so proud of the great job you’re doing with this Healthy Train!
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March 2nd, 2011 on 2:04 pm
I wonder if this post would be different if you were breastfeeding (I have a 26 month old and an 8 month old, still nursing the latter). I have to eat and drink at regular intervals throughout the day no matter what, even if I’m not hungry, because I find that if I don’t, my milk supply plummets.
With both babies, I found nursing helped me to lose the first 20 pounds, but the last ten I gained stuck/stick around until I stop nursing. So, I’ve had to accept a certain body weight (a healthy one, just not my ideal one) because I’m doing what I must for my body to support my baby.
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MrsW Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 11:05 pm
Yeah, I wonder about this too. I’m still breastfeeding my 15 month old and there are days when I really wouldn’t mind skipping breakfast (especially as I’ve been doing a temporary grain-avoidance diet and the thought of plain eggs at 8 am freaks me out) but I worry about needing to make enough milk. Thankfully T is eating on her own quite a bit but there are days where she barely gets any “grown-up” food due to being stubborn and I know she needs me to eat for her.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 2:10 pm
Maybe I read it wrong, but I am confused! How do you justify all of the strict measures you use to count your calories and make sure you don’t go over a certain number per day, but then turn around and say we should eat intuitively, based on when we are hungry? Essentially you’re saying you limit yourself, but then you’re saying we don’t have to limit ourselves if we eat when we feel hungry and don’t eat when we don’t feel hungry?
It just seems like your argument is… completely the opposite of what you’re actually doing – which is restricting your calories, counting them, only eating things that will fit within that calorie count, etc. But then saying it’s okay because you could deal with the hunger and eat like that forever? How is that listening to your body?
I dunno. I just see a discrepancy.
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 2:50 pm
Jenna will probably have her own thing to say about this. But reading her, I see that she’s trying to eat only when she’s hungry but she’s aiming for healthier food.
One could eat donuts only every time they’re hungry, well you can’t really loose weight that way.
There is a part about teaching the body, learning to be satisfied with a lower calorie intake meal.
I remember hearing something about the fact that your body feels satisfied 15mn after starting to eat, no matter what you eat. So really it doesn’t matter what she eats, but if she wishes to loose weight a light calorie meal works better.
Also there is a certain aspect about training yourself to eat healthy and building good habits.
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Momfish Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 4:00 pm
Eh… it’s hard to make that argument, though. If you’re “training yourself” you’re not listening to your body, either (in my opinion). One can easily argue that you’re simply “training yourself” to need/want more calories when you over-indulge. Either way, you’re not following your intuition – you’re modifying what you eat & how you eat it to meet an extremely specific caloric goal.
But I do see what you mean – Jenna is eating when hungry, just not eating poor quality food. Just making point that it’s hard to say “listen to your gut” but then write down everything you eat and track it statistically. That’s not… listening. That’s planning and training.
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 7:52 pm
Well on a personal note I know that I have this habit of having an afternoon snack. I often think that I’m hungry when I come home and so I eat. But then I’m not as hungry as I’d like to be for dinner. So to me it’s something I have to unlearn and I know you can train yourself not to follow a habit.
You could say it’s training, and it is, but it follows the concept that I’m not always truely hungry and therefore I need to watch out for it. Often I just follow this habit because my body expects it.
Over indluging is ok in my opinion as long as it’s not a daily thing. A one time occurence won’t get your body into an habit.
On the food subject I understand what you mean, it’s definitly a training. I think I see it from the point of view of the quality of what one eats. I feel like there is a point when one may need to get a good desintoxication and teach the body that it doesn’t need all the processed food it got addicted to. So I guess it’s a mix of both. You listen to when your body is truely hungry but then you teach it to be satisfied with simpler and more whole foods.
It’s definitly a fine line between the two.
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Anni Reply:
March 3rd, 2011 at 6:18 am
I think that measuring calories is about more than just restriction, though. I can’t answer for Jenna, but I personally intuitively eat first, but track calories to keep a note of certain patterns and habits. That really works for both overeating and under-eating. There have been days when I’ve been really glad I tracked my calories, because I was only at 800-900 calories, and that’s not something that is right for my body. It also allows me to be conscious of what calorie amounts are in certain homemade dishes, and it’s a way to reinforce intuitive eating: if I know that lasagna is truly 400 calories per piece, I’m not going to be able to reason myself into thinking I can have a second piece. Instead, if I’m still hungry, I’ll turn to something like fruit or a salad.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 2:25 pm
I actually use this method with my two year old though and it works great. Some days she eats like a horse, and some days she eats nothing. I just go with it. I’m trying to support her eating when she’s hungry and not when she’s not. So I never “make” her eat at mealtimes. A pediatrician told me this is a normal pattern for toddlers. And a child development specialist recommended not making food a battle or power struggle. It really works, she eats every type of food, and we don’t keep dessert in the house, so that’s a non-issue.
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Jenna Reply:
March 8th, 2011 at 12:47 am
I plan on doing this too! So far, TH is the least picky eater ever. We’ll see if that changes, but I hope to introduce him to food in a very non-forcible way so he learns to enjoy trying new things.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 2:36 pm
i understand and appreciate what you are saying, but seriously, how do you face being hungry without turning into a beast? hunger is one part of my trifecta of crankiness (two is tired, three is hot). i admire your perseverance.
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Allison K Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 5:49 pm
Amanda..I have that same trifecta! Hunger is the biggest portion of my trifecta though!
If my blood sugar gets too low…WATCH OUT!
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 7:56 pm
I used to go through fases like that. I feel like I do a lot better those days, maybe because I eat even more balanced foods, also I found that exercising (I’ve been pretty commited to running for the past year) has really helped my metabolism.
But I do remember some evenings a few years ago when I would tell my husband: “don’t talk to me now just hand me the honey and a spoon.”
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Cécy Reply:
March 2nd, 2011 at 7:57 pm
phases, not fases.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 3:03 pm
Well I think the way one eat should depends on the personal metabolism and the activity.
With a sedentary life there is less of a need for high calories. And while you exercise regularly you stay at home, spend a fair amount of time on the computer and do other activities than won’t burn as much calories as someone who works in landscaping. You’re also not that tall and frankly while the calories intake may sound small, when I look at what you eat and the plate size it looks like you eat to get a good hunger fulfillment.
I was thinking about food last night. I decided to make a fancy 3 course meal for my husband and I.
Menu was:
-Arugula salad with goat cheese, hazelnuts, granny smith and balsamic vinaigrette.
-Root vegetable latkes with a bit of sour cream and bay scallops sauteed in butter and oil with tiny green apple pieces sauteed in the same juice and served over it.
-Spiced winter squash pot de crème with apple and pistachio topping.
We ate but we really didn’t eat that much. Mostly because the first two course were eaten over a 45mn period. And then we treated ourself to dessert. I felt satisfied, not full. We ate a lot of fairly light food and took the time to enjoy it.
I think it’s something that’s missing in the american diet: to take the time to first cook, then eat dinner and take the time to enjoy. Feel the sutelty of the food, enjoy the flavors.
We eat meals with several course in France, but always with small portion in each course. Taking the time in between to clear the plates and all allows to digest and you end up eating less with the same (if not better) feeling of satisfaction when it comes to the stomach.
Personally I love it when both my taste buds and my stomach feel satisfied.
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March 2nd, 2011 on 7:58 pm
I don’t buy the you have to eat when you wake up thing…whatever, you drop weight when you burn more than you take in, end of story.
I eat all day long because I am constantly hungry…I agree you have to listen to your body and go with it….minus my body because it just wants bread lately.
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March 3rd, 2011 on 9:15 am
Throwing this out there (kinda surprised that nobody talked about it), but calories aren’t the only measure of a healthy day of eating. There are certain minerals, vitamins, etc that need to be consumed. By cutting out the empty calories, Jenna’s doing a more concentrated job on eating nutrient-dense foods.
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March 3rd, 2011 on 12:41 pm
I have to agree with Momfish that what I’ve read about intuitive eating suggests eating 100% according to your hunger signals which would allow you to focus on nutrient-dense foods but would contradict calorie counting for weight loss. I think the contradiction is easily understood by the fact that you are trying to lose weight quickly (which you mentioned in your post) and doing 100% intuitive eating would probably still help you lose weight but at a much slower weight.
BTW- I laughed when I read your comment about running on an empty stomach. Many runners feel this way but as you get into longer distances, it stops working:-( I’m training for a half marathon right now and there’s just no way I could do a 8-10 mile run with no fuel in the tank.
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Christine Reply:
March 3rd, 2011 at 12:44 pm
oops. I meant to say “slower rate”!
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March 3rd, 2011 on 1:47 pm
I believe a lot of what you say here is very true. I am a health educator at the VA, and I work with dietitians in a weight loss program. We are always telling our patients to recognize the feeling of “physical hunger” and the difference between that and emotional eating. when you think of food as fuel, and only fuel, it really improves a dysfunctional relationship with food. the part that I don’t completely agree with though is the skipping meals. All the dietitians I have worked with have explained that maintained weight loss is most often acheieved by eating 5-6 small meals throughout the day, and that eating breakfast is SO important.
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