Going along with my post on trials a few weeks ago, here is an excellent list of phrases to use, and phrases to avoid, when you’d like to reach out to someone in need. Based on recent familial experiences, I can tell you these really stood out to me as being the truth:
1. WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP?
They already feel like a burden. Listing off their needs only compounds that feeling.
3. DID YOU TRY THAT MANGO COLONIC I RECOMMENDED?
If the person has been ill for awhile, they have probably spent a considerable amount of time researching and hanging out at the office of several different providers. If you do feel like you have to tell them about a miracle solution that worked for your friend or your aunt, offer up the suggestion once and then let it be.
1. DON’T WRITE ME BACK.
I’ve actually personally experienced how awesome it is to hear this one. Mrs. Corn sent me a lovely package filled with toys for T1, and explicitly wrote that I didn’t have to write her a thank you for the gift. The toys were awesome, we’re still using some of them today, but that little note was the part I appreciated most.
2. I SHOULD BE GOING NOW.
Don’t overstay your welcome. Unless the person is talking non-stop, a shorter visit is better than a longer one.
As you can tell, I have this topic on the brain lately. If you have suggestions that aren’t on the NYT list, I’d love to hear them!