Day 1 of NaBloPoMo 2014: Married to Amazement
I have cousins who uses kindness as a cornerstone in their parenting philosophy. The parents work hard to be kind to their children, and focus a lot of time and effort on helping their children learn to be kind to others. The kids are human, tantrums and mistakes abound, but there is something really wonderful about being around them. I don’t get to be around them very often, but when I am I love to watch them interact with their kids. These cousins are the first parents I heard encouraging their child to “use his words.” As we worked through T1’s second and third years of life we repeated that phrase constantly.
I’m working to be kind. In recent years I’ve tried to eliminate gossiping about others, because I’ve experienced it being directed toward me in extensive ways and it’s not something I want to contribute to the world. I try to make sure that I’m not using ad hominem attacks in any way around my children. I get down on my knees and apologize to T1 (in my best moments) so he knows that we all lapse in our kindness sometimes, but that we can keep trying and get better.
I think T1 is very kind, and it is a very special thing to see. T2 is young, so all I can do right now is hope that she embraces the same approach.