Disconnecting from my regular routine right before the New Year has given me the time and space I needed to think about shifts I want to make to my daily life and my thinking throughout the next year. Depression and anxiety have become companions of mine, and it takes a lot of mental energy to keep them at a respectable distance so I can fulfill my responsibilities.
I felt rejuvenated like this twice before in 2014, each time when I went to Utah for photography workshops. What was it about those trips that meant so much to me? I think those are the things I need to focus on bringing into my life more often after the New Year in order to avoid the depressive bouts I’ve been dealing with.
1. Less time in front of the computer. I need to work more efficiently, and set firmer boundaries for when I stop working. Send more emails saying “I didn’t get to this today. I’ll try again tomorrow.” I’m shooting film more for this reason, because it slows me down and means less images to process.
I’ve seen a lot of 30 Before 30 lists that have very grand and exciting goals – but I learned my lesson with my 101 in 1001 list and didn’t want my 30 Before 30 to become a source of stress or anxiety as my 30th fete approaches. I want it to be filled with goals that I love and will enjoy prioritizing.
Inspiration struck one day and I realized I want my list to be about food! Specifically, 30 food experiences unique to the San Francisco area. Growing up I knew two things about San Francisco – it had a huge bridge, and it was a place where you eat chowder out of sourdough bread bowls on the pier. My version is going to include restaurants, items, and experiences. If I launch it in the new few weeks I’ll have 15 months to eat my way through.
Below is what I have put together so far. What do you think I should set out to eat between now and April 2015? Suggestions in the San Jose area are greatly appreciated because getting up to San Francisco can be a lot of work with the little ones!
Sharing one of my favorite Chicago food experiences with T1 – eating local treats at the Green City Market
Chowder in a sourdough bread bowl, (Boudin)
Burrito in Mission, (La Taqueria)
Oyster tour, (Hog Island)
Jelly Belly factory tour
Anchor Steam Brewery tour
Bakesale Betty chicken sandwich
Irish coffee at Buena Vista
Roast chicken at Zuni Cafe
Wine tasting in Napa
Mushroom hunting (TH’s Christmas present, we’re going in January!)
TCHO Chocolate Factory Tour
It’s Christmas morning, the kids are sleeping, my parents and sister are on planes on their way down to spend five days with us, and I’m taking the time to myself to reflect on the past year and think about what I want 2014 to be like.
I’ve been avoiding my 101 in 1001 list a little bit because I felt… ashamed about all that I didn’t accomplish. And then I realized that I don’t want to measure my life by what I don’t do. Look at all of the things I was able to bold, things I might never have accomplished without this list. Even more fun is to look at the list and reflect on how much I have changed as a person, and how that is reflected in my goals. When I created the list below I was a Mormon living in Chicago, planning to move back to Dallas in the next year. I wasn’t going to have another child (yet), had no plans to graduate from college, and certainly never thought I would leave the faith of my childhood.
I think the best goal accomplished in this list was keeping Mint updated daily for a month. This helped me realize how much easier it is to stay on top of our finances and spending when I check in regularly. Now I catalog and categorize our purchases once a week. Oh, and scanning all of my childhood photos! I love being able to access those memories so easily. Aside from the goals related to Mormonism, I think if I were to make another list I would leave off any goals that assume we’ll be living in a certain place throughout the 2 1/2 year period. We move far too often for that!
I’ll be turning 30 in 2015, so my next project will be a 30 Before 30. In 2015 I can start another 101 in 1001, or maybe someone will introduce me to a new concept to try. The most important thing I got from the 101 in 1001 experience was that a productive and happy life shouldn’t be about crossing things off a list. It’s about the dreaming as much as it is about the doing.
Now I’m off to dream up the next adventure…
I can officially cross one of my 101 in 1001 off my list. Yesterday I ran over 1 mile without any walking breaks! 1.25 miles to be exact. It took me about 16 minutes to do it, but I wasn’t worried about speed, I just wanted to finish with no walking.
After my workout on the treadmill I did 30+ flights of stairs. I am hardcore baby!
I haven’t written about Couch to 5K yet (I’m waiting to get father into the program before I do) but believe when when I say that at the beginning of January, I struggled to run 90 seconds without stopping. If you’re joining me in That Weight Loss Challenge and your knees are up for it, give this program a try. Stick with at for at least two weeks, and I promise you’ll be amazed with the results.
Technically I was supposed to run 20 minutes straight, for Week 5 Day 2, but I psyched myself out and stopped with something like 4 minutes to go. Before I started my run I was so nervous that I almost cried. If you’ve finished the 20 minute run and have any tips I’d love to hear them!
I finally finished typing up my 101 in 1001 list, something that’s taken me several months to refine. I’ll be posting sporadically about goals I’ve finished (probably those I take pictures of). My list will always be accessible at the top of That Wife, as one of my pages. Look up right now and you’ll see it there!
I’m starting this with Emily, and you can join us if you’d like! Don’t worry about being a few days behind, we’d love to have you chugging along with us. I had a hard time compiling mine until Emily posted some inspiration lists from an assortment of bloggers she knows. There is also a website for the Day Zero Project, though it’s currently down. Try searching for 101 in 1001 and looking at different lists around the web to help inspire the creation of yours!