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Amazement: Occasional Friends

November 21, 2014 By: Jenna Category: Uncategorized

Day 20 of NaBloPoMo 2014: Married to Amazement

Today goes to occasional friends. Not the lifelong friends I see occasionally, and not the core group of friends that live around me and feel essential to my sanity and happiness.

Occasional friends are those like HH. She is a Bay Area reader of That Wife who made it onto a list I keep of people who have expressed interest in getting together on the weekends (a list I’ll be referring to once again now that TH is working just as much as he was before; new job is not quite what we thought it would be). HH had never met me before but because she is the sort of a person who is open to possibility she agreed to spend an hour driving in the car with me to a food festival. We clicked immediately.  She was also working to build up her friend base after a recent move to San Francisco, and we even got together one night for a kid-free double-date.

We live an hour away from each other, and we’re both moms, so we don’t see each other very often. When we do I really enjoy reliving the recent past as we catch up with each other. She adds a slightly different perspective on things than what I get from the friends I see on a more regular basis, and I really like that. I think finding the line between self-care and friend-care can sometimes be difficult. Try as I might, there is only so much room for daily/weekly contact with non-familial relations and I’ve found that spreading myself too thin neglects both myself and the people who deserve something better.

And so I’ve learned to create a new category, occasional friends. Maybe we live a bit farther away from each other, or maybe we lead drastically different lifestyles. Occasional friends meet me over a drink or at the park with our kids a few times a year, we swap stories, I listen to what they have to say and think “I hadn’t thought about it that way before,” and we part declaring that the exchange needs to happen again, soon. It never seems to happen quite as often as we promise each other it will, but that’s okay. We are occasional friends and we both know we’re good with what we’ve got.

One Quick Take

October 27, 2014 By: Jenna Category: Uncategorized

A very nice gentleman at the pumpkin patch first complimented me on the way I was taking pictures of the kids (he liked that I was allowing them to do what they pleased, not asking them to sit and smile) and then offered to take a picture of all of us together! To top all of that off, he dropped down to a knee to shoot us, which is above and beyond for a candid of a stranger if you ask me. It was a lovely day at the Ardenwood pumpkin patch.

One Quick Take

October 20, 2014 By: Jenna Category: Uncategorized

I don’t think I take that many selfies, but our kids are like little windows into who we really are with the way they mimic.

Jenna Cole in Houston

October 17, 2014 By: Jenna Category: Uncategorized

We’re visiting Houston for the last week of October and I have availability for a few mid-week sessions. I’ll be offering a (slight) discount since I’m only doing them mid-week and because I’m still working to build up content for my website makeover. Anyone in that area who needs photos done? Let’s chat! Email jenna{at}jennacole.com for more details.

Jenna Cole in Houston, October 2014

Mamiya 645. Portra 800. Pushed 1 stop.

Prepping my body for Dirty Thirty

October 16, 2014 By: Jenna Category: Uncategorized, weight

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Canon AE-1. Kodak Gold 200 (expired, I think).

Since I worked off the pregnancy weight from T2 I’ve bounced around within the same 10lb range for almost a year. I settled into a routine of going to the gym 2-3x/week, starting a diet one week and moving to another a few weeks later. I felt like I was drifting and couldn’t decide if I wanted to give up completely or give it one more push.

In anticipation of my 30th birthday (why does that jump from one decade to the next feel so significant?) I decided to double down and see what I could make myself into. Not one last push to ever lose weight (let’s be realistic here) but one last push to be where I want to be before I tumble into my 30th decade. I’m still working to process my feelings about my body, after so many years of being denied the opportunity to form my own ideas about what my body is and what I can do with it. I started gaining weight as soon as I moved away to college and so it’s been years since I’ve seen myself strong and lean. What will that look like? What will that feel like?

 I considered a few different diet plans before I settled on my current program. Read more →

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