I look incredibly awkward in this photo, but it’s the best I have and I wanted to show you the new outfit I’ve been wearing for shooting weddings. When I showed you my previous get-up, I had a lot of great feedback, including a strong bias toward switching to pants. I had resisted because looking dressed up is important to me (it’s a special day and I want the couple to know it’s special for me too!) but as several people kindly points out, my cotton faded dress just wasn’t looking nice anymore, and a crisp pair of black pants would look much smarter.
Some time spent on Pinterest left me thinking the solution was a black pants+white shirt+vest combination. I bought a very nice $110 vest at the Nordstrom sale, counted it as a business expense, and was all set to wear it at the next wedding. Then we went to Poland and I found this one on clearance for $15. Much better.
White shirt – $3, thrifted
Vest – $15, Poland
Black pants – Express, purchased like 7 years ago so I have no idea how much they cost ($50?)
Shoes – $130, Cole Haan
Earrings – From my great-grandmother
Necklace – From a super-sweet former bride
And of course I wear my hair in the sock bun.

I’m really happy with the way this looks. I can squat, scoot, crawl, roll, whatever I need to do to get a great picture, but I still feel like I look like I’m taking the wedding day seriously. My next step is getting a bolder pair of earrings. Maybe something like this? Oh, or small gold discs like these with my little wig punched in the corner instead of the trees.
And once I bought and started wearing this vest, I realized I wanted even more. I feel like they’re a nice way to draw attention to my waist and away from my belly flab. So far the picture I”‘e seen of myself wearing them seems to suggest this is correct (there have been times when I see a picture of myself, and realize what I previously though was SO not true).