Day 23 of NaBloPoMo: Married to Amazement
My sister and I were close as children, the way kids are close. Snuggling one second and bickering the next. She came to BYU early and I was very excited to have her in the same city as me. We spent some time together, but with four years between us we were moving in completely different circles navigating different experiences.
When she got married I thought we would move directly into BFF Married Sibling mode. We could dish about our husbands, talk about what meals we were cooking, and have babies at the same time. The marriage wasn’t what she thought it was going to be though, and as she worked through that we went through a period where we didn’t talk much. I wish I had reached out to her more during that hard time, because I didn’t know much until the end of the relationship, but I confess I let myself become consumed with motherhood and my own life.
It’s been a few years since that time, and now we are closer than we’ve ever been before. We talk daily using the app Voxer and are finding that our views are aligning a lot more as we both make our way toward thirty. I love her, trust her with my secrets, and value the feedback she gives me when I’m working through something. She lets me voice my thoughts about her situations and is very forgiving when I am wrong or insensitive. She is one of my best friends.
I tried to get her to live with me, but she decided to learn a little bit more about the family business instead. Maybe she will take it over one day? I would be very happy to see my parents pass on what they have built to one of their children (it won’t be me, they know I’ve said bye-bye to Central WA for good.) Right now when I take the kids to see Nana and Papa I get to hang out with my sister too, and that’s a pretty sweet place to be.