18 Aug
Couple Friends
Tomorrow I’m meeting up with a fellow LDS photographer who just moved here from Utah. She takes beautiful pictures like the one below and I secretly want to be just like her. Except now I wrote it on the blog so it’s not a secret anymore. Her name is Bethany Jackman and she actually knows Kelli Nicole from BYU. It’s a funny little Mormon world we have.
I would post a picture of her but someone recently stole her identity and copied all her photos and pretended to be her on their own blog. It was incredibly creepy and now she has disabled right-clicking on her personal blog, which I completely understand. So maybe I’ll take her picture tomorrow so you can see how darling she is. Or maybe she’ll let me post a link to her personal blog, but I’m not going to do that yet since she just had her identity stolen.
I’ve told TH many times that I’m incredibly excited about this meeting because I’m secretly hoping that we as a couple will become best friends with her and her husband. They are both LDS. They plan on moving around a lot. She’s a photographer, she’s having a baby, she loves blogging, she has a photography blog and a personal blog. So far all I know about her husband is that he graduated from BYU with a Masters in Information Systems, but that just so happens to be the exact same degree that TH earned as well. This is a couple match made in heaven, right?
TH has been rather skeptical about the idea of finding a couple for us to be BFF with because the two of us are so different. The women I click with have spouses that just don’t do it for him. The men he likes most will have a spouse that just doesn’t have interests that line up with mine. I think this is a thing that all newlywed couples struggle with, finding not just one friend, but a matched pair. Yes, girls nights are possible. And he can spend time with the guys. And we have been to dinner parties and game nights and gone out to movies with couples, but that connection between wife&wife and husband&husband hasn’t been easy to find.
Sunday night we found the first couple that we both think will be a good fit for us. She loves photography and I’m encouraging her to launch her own business in the near future. I want her to design a website for me and teach me about couponing. He wants to be retired yesterday, just like my husband, which was reason enough for TH to want to talk to him all the time. The wife and I are thinking that getting them together might not have been such a good idea, since they both seemed to spend the majority of their time talking about how to make our grocery, household and personal spending budgets even smaller than they already are.
Tomorrow I’m hoping I’ll meet up with the wife of BFF couple #2. No pressure for Bethany or anything. 
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Oh I hope everyone clicks with one another!!
Finding couple friends is always difficult. Was it hard moving from all your friends to TX, where TH was already established? I know the move to Philly after I got married was bittersweet. My husband had been here for years and knew people. I was the newbie.
However, the thing I love is my church here. It provides such a great support system, as I’m sure your ward does for you as well.
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1We are here and I understand. I want to have couple friend who have our same belief and understandings. A couple who doesn’t want to party and who is just as committed to their partner. Someone who understand that we would rather spend most of our time together but like some social active with another couple. It is very hard to find couples like this it seems now days. Good Luck!
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2My wife and I have our separate sets of friends from before we were married and it seems to work out okay but, yeah, I understand wanting a couple you can be friends with as a couple.
Good luck!
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3I wish I loved my bf’s friends, but I can’t see it happening. I don’t mind hanging out with them as a couple, but I’d never call up the female half and go for tea, just the two of us.
But on the other hand, I know that my friends aren’t too crazy about my bf either, and my best friend’s husband is never going to want to hang out one-on-one with G.
I wish we had a real set of couple friends, but the things that we have in common as a couple we do not really share with our friends. Good luck!
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4I was just talking about this same thing with my hubby! As much as I love girls nights, it is even better when that can be combined with spending time with your guy. We have a couple “couple friends” who we love going out to dinner with. It is great to find people who share your interests and can broaden you experiences as a couple.
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5and i grew up with bethany and her husband in colorado! yes. a very small world indeed
and they are great.
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Shell Reply:
August 18th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
That is so cool!
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Small world!
I love your comments about BFF #1 - how TH and her husband talk about budgets. Hilarious
The couple friends we do have are in our small group, but they are all older than us, most by more than a few years and each one has children and we don’t. We enjoy hanging out with each of them, but we don’t really hang out with them on a regular basis just for being together. I need that time!
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7We have the same problem! The girls I’m friends with don’t have husbands that mine click with and vice versa! Except for one couple (and we all went to college together) and they live far away
I hope you all click! It’s nice to be able to go out to dinner with another couple and everyone truly enjoy themselves
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8you’re so cute, looking for BFF couples! We have one couple we like a lot, my hubs grew up with his friend since 6th grade and they got married two years before us, but we all get along great. They’re very good friends, but I’m not sure I’d say I’m BFF with the wife. We have a blast hanging out the four of us, but I’m not sure about hanging out with just the two of us. Maybe it would be a perfect fit, I just don’t know!
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9I hope you click! I understand; we don’t have any “couple friends” either. For the same reason - I really have to like them both and so does my husband - and what are the odds of that? It would be perfect if my best friend and hubby’s best friend got together, but those two have NOTHING in common. It’s laughable to imagine them together!
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10We struggle with this too… especially since I moved here. His friends’ gf’s are all nice, but not someone I could call when I am breaking down (ha… like this weekend.) so I struggle with that… it will be hard to find a couple that NEEDS couple-friends I think.
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11WE can be couple friends, right? Haha, too bad we don’t live in Dallas. Someday we should all move to Seattle.
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12PS: I LOVE that pic by Bethany! That’s actually of a girl in the photography program at BYU and at the LA temple, which is my new favorite temple to shoot at. Love those trees!
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13Ok, so let me make it one step smaller-Bethany Jackman was the photographer for Ryan’s other brother, Chase and his wife Amberlyn…
http://blog.bethanyjackman.com/2008/08/amberlyn-chase-wedding.html
It’s a small… small… world!
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14Oh. And she took their engagement shots too.
http://blog.bethanyjackman.com/2008/05/amberlyn-chase.html
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15LOL, um, love this post!! I am so happy we met today, you are the cutest ever! Loved the burgers too- my 3 pounds of meat and all.
What I secretly didn’t tell you is that I myself am friendless and have been desperately seeking new bffs, only hoping that you wouldn’t see the nerdalert that I am! The only thing I’m upset about is that we didn’t take a pic!! Next time. And pretty sure our husbands will be bffs. No pressure TH. 
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16I hope everything went well! It’s always fun to find similar people!
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17I’ve heard that’s an issue with all couples. My parents still have that problem. But I think for the most part it just depends on the couple.
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18That ROCKS! When my husband and I found our first couple buddies I was so excited… hubby is more reserved than me. It really is such a blessing. So happy for you!
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19Hehe…we always talk about the “couple friends” thing. When I bond with a new girlfriend chances are her partner is not compatible with my husband…I don’t know why, it just always seems to happen!
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