I’m writing this Sunday post as my first of 2009 because it is the most difficult topic I can imagine attempting to cover. I expect it to be quite controversial among the LDS readers, as garments are an extremely sacred thing to us, easily mocked and ridiculed by our critics. I expect many members of my faith to comment or contact me saying they think I am making a mistake in covering something so sacred in such a public manner. To you I say we cannot stick our heads in the sand, and we cannot let our beliefs and traditions be defiled by the critics. We can use our voices and our words to spread the truth. I don’t know if it will work, but I hope that addressing the topic will satisfy peoples curiosity and help them develop a sense of respect for something that is often defiled. It is my hope that in writing this post I will help people understand the LDS people just a little bit better.
To my non-member readers, to those who have either heard of the garment previously, or who are learning of it for the first time on this blog, I make a special request. I don’t know it if is possible that we have developed some odd sort of loyalty to each other. I open my heart and mind up to you, sharing the funny, sad, delightful, and special things in my life, and you in turn, become my friends. If this loyalty that I imagine really exists, I ask a special favor of you. Read this post, and let it be enough. I have not read them, for the church discourages us from doing so, but there are many sites out there that make light of our sacred things. They post pictures of the garments, they laugh at them, the pretend to understand them. But in spreading such sacred information to the world at large they prove that they know nothing about the LDS faith and the covenants we make. They laugh at us. They call us peculiar and we shake our heads in reply (sometimes a few tears escape in the act of shaking), and in response we do nothing because it is God who will one day seek retribution for such acts of defilement.
Please, if you have questions, post them below, or email them to me. I will email you personally and we will try to come to an understanding together. Please don’t read those anti-mormon sites. Just… please.
Amanda, Kate, and Cate all asked specifically about the garment so I know it’s something on peoples minds. I won’t copy and paste an entire post often, but I feel it is necessary in order for me to keep from explaining more than is appropriate. Why is this? The garment, in my opinion can only be defined as sacrosanct. The following quote comes from lds.org.
Once people are endowed, they have the blessing of wearing the temple garment throughout their lives. They are obligated to wear it according to the instructions given in the endowment. Those who have been endowed in the temple must remember that the blessings that are related to this sacred privilege depend on their worthiness and their faithfulness in keeping temple covenants.
The garment provides a constant reminder of the covenants made in the temple. The garment should be treated with respect at all times. It should not be exposed to the view of those who do not understand its significance, and it should not be adjusted to accommodate different styles of clothing. When worn properly, the garment provides protection against temptation and evil. Wearing the garment is an outward expression of an inward commitment to follow the Savior.
According to Boyd K. Packer: (Don’t just scroll through the story he tells, read it! It really helped me understand what the garment was before I received it.)
There may be occasions when endowed members of the Church face questions on the garment.
On one occasion one of the brethren was invited to speak to the faculty and staff of the Navy Chaplains Training School in Newport, Rhode Island. The audience included a number of high-ranking naval chaplains from the Catholic, Protestant, and Jewish faiths.
In the question-and-answer period one of the chaplains asked, “Can you tell us something about the special underwear that some Mormon servicemen wear?” The implication was, “Why do you do that? Isn’t it strange? Doesn’t that present a problem?”
To the chaplain who made the inquiry he responded with a question: “Which church do you represent?” In response he named one of the Protestant churches.
He said, “In civilian life and also when conducting the meetings in the military service you wear clerical clothing, do you not?” The chaplain said that he did.
He continued: “I would suppose that that has some importance to you, that in a sense it sets you apart from the rest of your congregation. It is your uniform, as it were, of the ministry. Also, I suppose it may have a much more important place. It reminds you of who you are and what your obligations and covenants are. It is a continual reminder that you are a member of the clergy, that you regard yourself as a servant of the Lord, and that you are responsible to live in such a way as to be worthy of your ordination.”
He then told them: “You should be able to understand at least one of our reasons why Latter-day Saints have a deep spiritual commitment concerning the garment. A major difference between your churches and ours is that we do not have a professional clergy, as you do. The congregations are all presided over by local leaders. They are men called from all walks of life. Yet they are ordained to the priesthood. They hold offices in the priesthood. They are set apart to presiding positions as presidents, counselors, and leaders in various categories. The women, too, share in that responsibility and in those obligations. The man who heads our congregation on Sunday as the bishop may go to work on Monday as a postal clerk, as an office worker, a farmer, a doctor; or he may be an air force pilot or a naval officer. By our standard he is as much an ordained minister as you are by your standard. He is recognized as such by most governments. We draw something of the same benefits from this special clothing as you would draw from your clerical vestments. The difference is that we wear ours under our clothing instead of outside, for we are employed in various occupations in addition to our service in the Church. These sacred things we do not wish to parade before the world.”
He then explained that there are some deeper spiritual meanings as well, connecting the practice of wearing this garment with covenants that are made in the temple. We wouldn’t find it necessary to discuss these—not that they are secret, he repeated, but because they are sacred.
The garment, covering the body, is a visual and tactile reminder of these covenants. For many Church members the garment has formed a barrier of protection when the wearer has been faced with temptation. Among other things it symbolizes our deep respect for the laws of God—among them the moral standard. (lds.org)
I have one more link that should help you understand a little bit better, but please remember that this page was created by Brigham Young University and is not officially endorsed by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Visit the Encyclopedia of Mormonism site on garments to learn more about why the garment is worn, how they are purchased, what they symbolize, and discussion of references to holy garments mentioned throughout the bible.
January 4th, 2009 on 12:25 am
Jenna, I think you handled this topic perfectly.
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January 4th, 2009 on 12:30 am
I understand this is most likely hard for you to write. Thank you for sharing. Your reasons are good ones.
While I don’t think I can ever understand some of the silence around these things (yes, even after the explanation that “It’s sacred.”) I do respect it.
Your Sunday posts have truly enlightened me and helped me to understand your faith. I look forward to them.
Also, I didn’t get a chance to comment on the last post, but I wanted to tell TH to PLEASE COME AND POST!
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January 4th, 2009 on 12:41 am
I have read your blog since I met “Miss Avocado” on Wedding bee and I appreciate how you address these topics. I think you’re doing a great job of explaining your beliefs and practice to those of us like me who don’t know anything about it. I admit I had some outdated stereotypes and I love learning about other peoples faiths! Thanks for your openness!
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January 4th, 2009 on 2:00 am
Thank you for sharing your beliefs with us, I know it is not easy especially about topics that some make light of. I had never heard about this before and found it interesting as with all aspects of other religions.
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January 4th, 2009 on 2:10 am
Well said, Jenna. I actually printed out the quote and story for my own reference:) Thanks!!
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January 4th, 2009 on 4:06 am
Wow Jenna, that was interesting.
I did not know about the garment and throughout the first paragraph I thought you were talking about the white dress you wear to the temple. Thanks for enlightening me!
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January 4th, 2009 on 5:05 am
Thank you, Jenna.
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January 4th, 2009 on 11:47 am
I appreciate your willingness to share more about your religion with all of us. I’ll be honest to say I knew nothing about this before I read your post, and like busylizzy thought at first you were referencing the dress you wore in the temple.
I think too many people (especially our age) are too quick to judge each other and make fun of things that we don’t understand. It seems to be the easier route than truly taking the time to understand each each other. I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to explain the things that are so important to you. I think that we need more people in the world like you who are willing to make the effort to explain things that others might view as “strange” and help to bring us all to a better understanding of each other. It takes a lot to put yourself out there like that.
Maybe this will sound strange, but I think the whole thing is really special. I’m not a religious person, but to me it is no different than someone who wears a cross around their neck every day. In fact, it seems even more sacred, since it is something that is really just for you. It is a reminder of your faith, but it isn’t something flashy that you need to share with the world by wearing it on the outside, it is just for you and that makes it that much more important. I really think that is wonderful… and that doesn’t seem like the best wording for it… but it is the best I can come up with right now.
Thank you again for everything, and I look forward to all of your posts!
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January 4th, 2009 on 1:00 pm
hi jenna…
just wanted to let you know that wordpress is automatically linking “possibly related posts” beneath your own…and both of them appear to be things that call the garments into question.
i think it’s too bad that the church discourages reading those websites. even though some sites might be hurtful, it helps members of the church learn the criticisms of their beliefs so that they might defend them, as you bravely did.
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January 4th, 2009 on 1:34 pm
Thank you for this, Jenna. It sounds like it was very hard for you to write. I can imagine it would be very frustrating to hear about all of the negative websites that discuss your faith, especially on topics as sensitive as this one. But as always, this post was very insightful. I think it is more meaningful to learn about these topics by hearing what they personally mean to you - which I assume is why you chose this particular story to share with us. So thank you for sharing with us, even though it may have been difficult. You are helping us to know the truth so we don’t have to turn to the critics and hear/read their hate.
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January 4th, 2009 on 4:31 pm
Thanks Jenna, I had no idea about this until I read your post. Is very interesting to learn about someone else’s religion and refreshing to read it written in such a non-preachy fashion.
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January 4th, 2009 on 5:33 pm
I had never heard of it either. Of course growing up in France LDS isn’t very big and it’s made fun of a lot.
I appreciate as well that you share this, my belief is that it is easier to have peace when you learn about other Faith and Beliefs an grow to respect them.
I do have questions: Since it says you have to wear it day and night, I’d assume a person would have several ones correct? Silly question but: do you have to take a different care for them than you would regular clothing (washing machine for example) since it’s sacred?
Also can someone who has not been endowed wear it since it forms a barrier of protection?
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January 4th, 2009 on 7:08 pm
Okay, I have to come out of lurkedom. I don’t even REMEMBER how I stumbled on your blog, but have enjoyed your wedding planning (it was beautiful!) and now your newlywed adventures!
And as a fellow LDS gal, I must say I enjoy and love your Sunday posts. You do a great job with these topics and today’s was no different. It seems like anything found on the lds.org website or if it’s temple/garment related, anything from Boyd K. Packer’s Holy Temple book is a great resource.
To me, the best line that sums up the whole issue of why we wear garments is: “Wearing the garment is an outward expression of an inward commitment to follow the Savior”. It’s like wearing a CTR ring, only much more sacred and meaningful. I can imagine that most other religious people that wear clothing or jewelry significant to their religion can identify that we do it as a reminder of our deep devotion to the covenants we have made (and especially since there are more hidden, they truly are meant as a personal reminder, not a loud statement to the world).
Anyway, these and all your other posts have been great to read! Happy Sunday!
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January 4th, 2009 on 9:12 pm
jenna, i’ve read your archives from wedding planning and am now enjoying your newly-wedded-bliss blog. even though i think we lead very different lives, i’ve really enjoyed learning about yours.
thank you for this post. i am very interested in the mormon religion, and have read a few books and articles about it, as well as discussed the faith with mormon friends. i have to admit that i am a person who has made light of this particular part of mormonism, and it’s true: it’s because i didn’t understand it, and i knew that it would be shocking or funny to other people. i am very sorry that i did that. i hate to think that i have been so disrespectful. this post has encouraged me to think and learn before i speak, especially about other people’s deeply-held beliefs.
i look forward to reading your future posts, and would be interested to learn more about this issue in particular.
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January 4th, 2009 on 10:38 pm
while i still have my disagreements about the “sacredness” vs. “secretive” part of the LDS faith, i really don’t think your choice to wear or not wear these garments is really that big of a deal… at all. i don’t really see why there is so much question behind it, either.
i’ll admit it seems a little strange and a tiny bit pointless *to me personally* but i could care less really because to someone else, it is an important part of life, i guess… and even if i don’t get that - i respect it.
there are lots of strange practices in religion - that’s why i prefer the spirituality side over the rituals side. once again, just a personal thing.
i like that you’re doing these sunday posts! i think they’re very interesting!
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January 5th, 2009 on 9:11 am
this was wonderful. b loves your sunday posts. he now heads over to your blog every sunday before i even get a chance!
i cannot tell you how grateful i am for all the wonderful promises we make in the temple and the incredible blessing it is to have a reminder of those promises.
tell TH hi for me. much love-a
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January 5th, 2009 on 9:35 am
Jenna, I think you did a great job explaining the garment without altering the sacredness of it. I too enjoy your Sunday posts and although, on one occasion, I did not agree with what you posted, I think it is a good thing to spread our beliefs in a way you feel comfortable with. The hardest thing for me is some of the comments. For instance, Kalen, shared her opinion that wearing garments are pointless (in her opinion). It is hard to not get immediately offended because you and I both know how much wearing the garments means. I think you are doing a good job trying to get people to understand but what I need to understand is that no matter what you or I say, there will still be people out there that feel it necessary to divulge their lack of wanting to truly understand. Also, in actuality, we know that the only way to truly understand any part of our religion, especially the mostly sacred parts such as garments, is to partake in the ordinances themselves, although it is nice that you are willing to share as much as you can.
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January 5th, 2009 on 12:34 pm
I also wanted to echo others in thanking you for your openness in addressing the unique aspects of the LDS faith. It is not something I am familiar with, and I have developed a sincere appreciation for both the special and sacred things that you participate in through membership in your faith community. Not only has it helped me to understand something with which I was quite unfamiliar, it also gives me the opportunity to clear up any misconceptions that others may have.
I enjoy your blog very much. Have a great day!
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January 5th, 2009 on 1:24 pm
I also wanted to add (like everyone else) - Thank you for posting this and starting your Sunday posts
I grew-up many LDS and they weren’t very open to answering questions, which I can understand, but I thank you for sharing.
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January 7th, 2009 on 1:35 pm
Cecy-We do have several. We work to keep them white and are very careful with the, but yes, we do wash them like other clothing.
Amanda-I had a hard time at first as well, because it’s hard to have someone say “I don’t believe in what you are doing,” but I think the purpose of these posts in many ways its to promote tolerance. I ask readers to tolerate my beliefs, and in return I tolerate theirs.
I’ve come to believe that we are members could do a lot better job of being tolerant ourselves.
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January 11th, 2009 on 8:36 pm
I don’t know if “e” will ever see this, but I would like to address what she/he said.
“i think it’s too bad that the church discourages reading those websites. even though some sites might be hurtful, it helps members of the church learn the criticisms of their beliefs so that they might defend them, as you bravely did.”
To me, anti-Mormon sites are poison. A month ago, I landed on such a site. The person writing it was formerly Mormon and had even taught 3 years’ worth of Gospel Doctrine. I had the thought of “learning the criticisms of our beliefs” so I could defend them.
Most unfortunately, these weren’t just criticisms by an ignorant Mormon. This person declared their purpose was to singlehandedly bring down our church. They took truths we believed (such as our belief in Christ and our goal to become like Him, or our belief in the pre-mortal realm or baptisms for the dead) and added one simple twist to it to make it look stupid or wrong or evil.
It hurt me. I found myself angry and thinking, “that’s not true…that’s not true…” While it did not destroy my testimony of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, it drove away the spirit of God and had me feeling angry and resentful. Such feelings are never good. Looking anti-Mormon sites is just as poisonous as looking at pornography. I haven’t been to that site (nor any other site) since.
However, on defending our religion, I believe Robert D. Hales gave an excellent talk on Christian Courage this last General Conference…and Jenna did a wonderful job on displaying that.
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January 14th, 2009 on 2:22 pm
I’ve decided to comment on this, because I have to say that it was well written and explained so wonderfully (to me at least). I’ve followed your blogging through Weddingbee and enjoyed reading what you had to write. I had a best friend in Coppell, TX (right outside of Dallas) who used to be Mormon but had stopped practicing even though her family continues to practice their faith. She only ever really put the church down for having too many rules, and never really explained things when I asked. So thank you for explaining these things.
P.S. I took some online courses through BYU for college and one of them had me read “Standing for Something” by Gordon B. Hinckley, and I can honestly say it changed how I was living my life. I even passed the book around to family members to read because I was so moved by it.
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January 17th, 2009 on 10:40 pm
I want to thank you for writing these Sunday posts as, like many others it seems, I love learning about different faiths. And in that regard, I think it was right for you to ask people not to look at the anti websites.They don’t really explain, it is more the opinion of people who are angry or hurt for some reason, or just plain prejudiced. Of course it is good to know all perspectives, but I stumbled on those sort of sites first…because of auto links like the ones mentioned, and am so glad to have found sites like yours so i can really understand. Can’t wait to read the archives and catch myself up!
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January 18th, 2009 on 6:41 pm
Kristin-Isn’t it a wonderful book! Did it talk about the “6 Be’s”?
emily-I really think you addressed the anti-mormon website issue well. I plan to write a post on it someday and I will be referencing your comment when I do. Thank you.
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January 18th, 2009 on 8:36 pm
It’s didn’t have the “6 Be’s”. I’ll have to look those up. Can I mention that its so weird to find out that you’re in Coppell? My dad lives there and I graduated from high school there. Such a small world!
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I have garment questions. Once you are endowed, do you have to wear the garment 100% of the time (excluding bathing)? What about swimming? If it is hot outside can you just sleep in a tank top? Do you have to keep them on while you are intimate? Are they like Spanx (meaning can you wear them under a skirt or dress without it being obvious you are wearing shorts? Do you wear underwear under the garments or do they have a built in bra and also act as undergarment? Finally, at the ceremony where you receive them, do they give them to you then, or do you order them in advance so you have them ready in your size, etc. - so do you end up seeing them before the actual ceremony (or when growing up and helping your mom with laundry did you end up seeing them). Another question - do they come in a variety of fabrics - because I can imagine wearing so many layers can get very hot at times. Do they make special ones for working out? And finally, it said in your passage that they should not be adjusted to accommodate different styles of clothing - but haven’t they been adjusted many, many times over the years? And, since you just got endowed and thus just started wearing the garments - do you feel it is more of an adjustment for a woman to get used to wearing them under her clothing, than a male (as many non-LDS males wear a shirt (undershirt) and shorts (boxers) under their clothing everyday? I think that I am going to cap myself at 100 questions.
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October 1st, 2009 on 3:42 pm
So I just figured I would ask - do they make maternity garments (I don’t really know what they look like) or are you granted some kind of reprieve?
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